10.27.14: Global – (Lifestyle):Some women have mates that are metro sexual. They’re snazzy dressers and sometimes even outshine them when out on the town… Welp, not in my house!
My “Mister” used to throw on whatever was clean (he loved his dark colors) and gave no damns because he was comfy and happy. You add in a huge piece of meat and ESPN and you would think glory shone on his life.
It took some eye rolling, a couple of threats and a few tears on my part to get him to pay attention to what he wore, but now he loses sleep about his wardrobe, especially when we’re going somewhere fancy (the dressing gene is completely missing from his pool).
I spend a lot of time traveling and attending high-culture events that require me to wear a gown – my man would be beside me in a really nice black suit, though I had other outfits in mind.
A few weeks ago, with another fancy event approaching, I suggested he get fitted for a tuxedo. I gave him the reasons why (not to mention every grown man should have one in his closet) and he agreed – I was so proud of him I could burst.
Within days of the event I turned to him and asked if he had the appropriate shoes to wear with his Tux. He said:
“Yep. Just gotta find my black shoes around here somewhere.”
I gasped in horror and replied:
“What? You can’t be seriously thinking of wearing those horrible things with a tuxedo?!”
He looked at me and said:
“But they are comfortable. I tried on tuxedo shoes and my feet immediately began to throb. I’m already going to look like a penguin; must I be a limping one, too?”
I leveled him with a “you fixing to start something” look and he sighed and said he would go find the appropriate shoes.
I kissed my unhappy penguin, told him I appreciated his efforts and that I loved him for being willing to do this for his diva. He grinned and told me:
“Anything for you dear.”
Success: we work hard at compromise and collaboration.
I could have been snarky and told him women suffer in heels for men all the time. And though it did cross my mind in the midst of our discourse, my love for his willingness to try was a strong reminder to be grateful for the victories without gloating.
I’m so looking forward to our next event!
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